People Pleasing.This is what respecting yourself does. It changes everything. It takes a lot of courage and emotional strength to act on your own behalf. It takes the belief that you deserve something better. - Sherry Campbell
Yep, why is it that I have only mastered the bad personality traits: multi-tasking, people-pleasing, never speaking up for myself.
Call it a side-affect of my culture or just a personal quirk, but I have always been the "let me nod and agree with everybody" person. Confrontations scare the Clooney outta me
I don't know how to speak up for my own success. I find it smarmy to say what's on my mind. I find it sleazy to 'sell' my strengths. I find it silly to promote myself.
Aah..it just seems so much safer to remain in my cocoon and let the world and my circumstances yank me from one end to the other!
This thought-provoking and well-written article on Entrepreneur has opened my eyes to the power of asserting yourself. The author makes it clear that success only serves those who assert themselves with grace, dignity and courage. Following are 7 ways to avoid being a pushover, along with my favorite lines from each section:
[/quote]a. Expect Respectb. Express Your EmotionsHave you noticed that self-love, self-respect and self-awareness all begin with the word self?c. Express Your OpinionsThe type of anger that will bring you success is the type that can be spoken with class, gratitude and a statement of deliberate direction.d. Say NODo not look for agreement, simply state what is correct for you and live that fully.e. Ask For What You WantIf someone else is let down because of a healthy and productive decision you need to make, that is their "stuff" to deal with and not your responsibility.f. Make MistakesIf you see yourself as a burden, you will be treated as one.g. Pursue HappinessReal people make mistakes and are not perfect. Your mistakes are your greatest teachers, so mistake-away.When you "please," your happiness is dependent upon the approval of others. From this place you will always be afraid, under-expressed, oppressed and in fear.
I am bookmarking this - hope you enjoy it too #HUGS